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FLAMES Calculator

Friends, Lovers, Affection, Marriage, Enemies or Siblings? Play the classic FLAMES name game online, with every step shown.

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How to play FLAMES

  1. Write both full names.
  2. Cross out the letters the names have in common – each matching pair once.
  3. Count the letters that are left.
  4. Write F-L-A-M-E-S and count along it by that number, starting from F. Cross out the letter you land on.
  5. Keep counting from the next letter, wrapping round, and cross out again until only one letter remains.

Example

Anna Smith and Tom Brown share the letters M and one T. After crossing them out, 11 letters are left (A N A S I H and O B R O W). Counting 11 along FLAMES crosses out E, S, A, F and L in that order – M for Marriage remains.

What the letters mean

  • F – Friends
  • L – Lovers
  • A – Affection
  • M – Marriage
  • E – Enemies
  • S – Siblings

Tips

Use full names for a fairer game – with short first names many letters cancel out. Spaces, accents and capital letters are ignored. Like any love test, it is just for fun.

Frequently asked questions

What does FLAMES stand for?

Friends, Lovers, Affection, Marriage, Enemies and Siblings.

Should I use first names or full names?

Either works, but full names usually leave more letters and make the game more interesting.

What if all the letters cancel out?

Then there is nothing to count – try the full names or add a middle name.